We sometimes have to face the fact that some of our most cherished ideas, lifelong characteristics and habits may be what is holding us back from development. It takes much courage to ask for healing even if it means those cherished characteristics may have to go.
I am talking now about such things as dominance and submission and all the activities that go with those, and which are so much a part of the lives of some of us that blog here.
We suffer unhappiness, yet may be unwilling to give up, even do not remotely consider giving up, those very things that may, in ways unbeknown to us consciously, be holding us back from escaping to freedom. The ego is assiduous in working for its survival, and does not want us to dismantle the structure by which it maintains its hold on us. We prefer to live among the familiar features of our personal landscape, and dread to bring into action those techniques which we know will be effective, in case we are led away from familiar shores and into the deep waters of uncertainty, even though deep within us we know that what looks like uncertainty is really the appearance of freedom when viewed from the prison we are presently in. Those familiar features are the bars of our prison and the fountainheads of our tears.