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Friday, April 05, 2013

Reasons for following a DD lifestyle

Bas wrote a post recently that prompted me to try to articulate my reasons for wanting a DD marriage.



1)    Our marriage must not stagnate in mediocrity but must shine as an example to all.

2)    A man should be able and confident to lead and a woman should be able and confident to submit, because these characteristics are natural, sexy in the broadest meaning of the word, and generate mutual attraction.

3)    Malcolm needs to learn to be more decisive.  Too often - almost always -  the native hue of resolution gets sicklied o'er with the pale cast of thought, and not because of conscience but from sheer timidity.

4)    Rose needs to learn to accept Malcolm’s decisions without aggressive arguing; but Malcolm must ask Rose for her input on a matter about which he will make a decision.

5)     Malcolm needs to become more self-confident

6)    Rose needs to avoid sulking and unwarranted silence

7)    Malcolm needs to speak his thoughts to Rose more readily, when they might affect her.

8)    Rose needs to be more proactive about following an agreed housework schedule and be held accountable for it

9)    Malcolm and Rose both need to be better disciplined and not neglect obligations and duties

10)  Malcolm and Rose both need to avoid “distancing”




11)  Many success stories on the internet encourage us


Will DD will help us to make these improvements?

 

3 comments:

  1. Malcolm, when I read this, I read all kind of good valid reasons.
    There's just one thing that's nagging me:
    You start with "my reasons for wanting a DD marriage".
    Do you think they could be Rose's reasons too?

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    1. No, Bas, I make no such claim. I was thinking I had already made that clear, but - no, as far as I am aware, Rose has no such thoughts. She certainly gives me no hint of them if she has. We have a way to go yet, I think, before I can say that.

      Rose may second some of the aspirations in my post, but I don't think she sees DD as the way to achieve them. Yet.

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  2. You have some great reasons Malcolm. I hope it works out for you.

    Callie

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