This was originally a comment on Tammy and Jake's blog, but I want to record it here.


My thoughts on letting go.

It's not only submissives that have this problem with letting go. Anyone who does spiritual work has letting go to do. I sometimes practise when I am walking every morning, my journey takes almost 15 minutes and if I don't lose my place on the way (I usually do) it can be fifteen minutes of letting go.

It's important to let go of the desire to let go. That may sound ridiculous but it's true: so long as that desire to let go is in you, you haven't done it and will never do it.  Though it may feel like you are going to vanish into nothingness, it's not necessary to hold on to anything whatsoever.  When we have let go of everything, life bears us up and carries us along.  We become suddenly a hundred times more conscious, more alive.
One reason spanking helps is because your conscious mind is forcibly taken off its struggle, thus enabling it to let go. Subspace results.

A very interesting description of letting go can be found at the beginning of Eckhart Tolle's book "The Power of Now." Also read Tony Parsons' book "The Open Secret" for another radical letting go.  You can find Tony Parsons on the internet, he has recorded an interview on youtube somewhere.

Usually letting go, when it happens, is temporary: a few moments of freedom, then the ego asserts its control again; but sometimes it is permanent and life-changing.

It's my view that submissive women are seeking the same release as the mystic seeking God. Just that they are doing it in different ways with different immediate goals. Everyone is doing it in the way that seems right for them.